If you suggest a boob job to your wife or girlfriend, some might judge you harshly; you’re selfish and shallow, you objectify women -- and it’ll wreck her soul. Most likely, none of that is true in your case.  Based on interactions with our readers, here are reasons men can and should bring it up. 

#1. Without bigger breasts, you don’t want to marry her. 
It’s probably the #1 concern I hear about from men. Usually, it’s when they are thinking of proposing marriage, but they know they’ll be unhappy if sex isn’t the max, and that requires bigger breasts. They don’t want to be an unhappy husband. Bringing it up is worth the risk. It’s worked out perfectly for many. 

#2. The thrill faded, and you’ll leave rather than settle for dull sex. 
Often this is with a wife, where the early-day intensity of sex has faded, and my reader couldn’t accept a mediocre sex life, nor a sexless marriage. The mere thought of that makes him think of divorce. He knows that bigger breasts would make the whole relationship exciting.

#3. You like/love her, but not her body. 
When men explain this, it’s typically one of two issues: She’s sexy, but too bottom-heavy and top-light, as in pear shaped. Breast augmentation would provide a nicer balance. Or, also very common: she’s stopped breastfeeding your most recent child and “D became A” (deflation).

#4. You need to know if your sexual desires will be fulfilled or ignored
It’s going to come up, so sooner is better. How she reacts to the idea of cosmetic surgery to excite you–and thus supercharge the relationship–will be telling. If her reaction makes it clear she doesn’t care what you feel and need, learn that now. 

#5. Your preferences changed. 
How dare you evolve? You’re a terrible husband! That’s the gist of what [useless] couples therapists have said to me. To hell with them. Very strong desires can build over time, in both men and women. Especially women who become more fit-conscious as they age and want the same in their mate. 

#6. You are hardwired, you can’t change, and it’s non-negotiable. 

You can’t be deprogrammed any more than gay people can skip being gay. It’s got nothing to do with politics or chauvinism. It’s just reality–you’re among those men who need the excitement of substantial breasts. You don’t have a choice. If you ignore your strong needs, you’re guaranteed unhappiness and you know it. 

#7. You have $6,000 that you want to get rid of. 

#8. She’s self-conscious about being flat-chested.
She doesn’t feel sexy, and probably wouldn’t ever think of breast augmentation on her own, or doesn’t realize how much it would transform her in your eyes–and rocket your passion to the moon. I’ve had men tell me, “She doesn’t like to remove her top during sex because she has no boobs.”

#9. She’s extremely jealous and insecure, to the point where it’s a liability in the relationship. 
If she understood how breast augmention would fulfill your desires, and how incredibly powerful that is, and she went ahead with it, she’d be happier and the relationship might work better. Note: Women don’t know what big breasts mean to men, because men never explain it.

#10. She’s a physical perfectionist
You believe she’d like the feeling of going from attractive to spectacular. Being amazing excites her. BA would catapult her, looks-wise, and amplify her power.